Wednesday, April 6, 2011

R.I.P Domestic Violence

By: Cheryl Chandler

In March of 2009, I lost the most important person in my life, my mother. She was murdered by her long time boyfriend of 15 years. A man I grew to love and look at like my father. But when I thought about it, I lost my mother to Domestic Violence. And that is not fair at all. I would never wish this pain on anybody. I often tell people I could have probably dealt better if my mother died from a health issue or natural causes. But someone taking her away from me hurts the most.

So when I was looking for something to do for my organic post, I jumped at the fact that I could do whatever I wanted to do, as long as it tied in with sociology. Well violence is a big issue and Domestic Violence is an even bigger issue. And its not really looked at but for a month and they have a walk in honor of victims. No one ever thinks about the people that have to deal with it every day of their lives. The families, the victims of domestic violence and the survivors. The children that lose a mother or father, a mother that loses a child, and brother that loses a sister. 

Domestic violence could happen to anybody not just women. Some people get it twisted it. There are some Men that are victims to Domestic Violence its not just women. But there are more cases of women then men. When most people of Domestic Violence they automatically think a man beating on a women. That made me think of Gender roles in society( which we were just talking about in class today). Men have been giving that label because there stronger then women and it's more likely that a man is beating on a woman. Like I stated before there are a very few cases of men being abused. 

The violence in todays society is so out of control. With men killing other men, men killing cops, gang shootings, and people killing little kids, fighting, bullying and I can go on and on. The point is violence is everywhere. But the thing I hate the most is Domestic Violence, what gives a man the right to beat on a women and do what he wants to her. There are so many cases of Domestic Violence and its men beating and/or killing women. It has to stop somewhere, some how, by somebody. R.I.P Domestic Violence.

Heres an article about domestic violence, it has facts and statistics about the issue:


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  2. im sorry for your loss wow that makes me sad. Your right people dont ever think or look at the bigger picture. I can see why you rather lose your mother to natural causes because you can say it was natural. I hope you stay strong and what a world we live in . This world is a jungle and money is the banana and people are going ape.

  3. Brittanie DeShieldsApril 10, 2011 at 9:09 PM

    First I would like to apologize for your loss and I completely agree with everything you said. Any violence, wether it's emotional, physical, or mental,is unecessary and just plain pointless! THere should be no reason why people need to hurt others if it's to get revenge or make themselves feel better. In the end they are just being self centered and rude. They may be making themselves feel better but they fail to realize they are hurting tons of other people along with it. The way the world is becoming I dont even want to think of how it will be in the future.

  4. I pray that GOD will heal your hurt and pain to i to have lose a love one my brother who when to a party where someone put a drug call ice in his drink and he took his life because some want to see what happen before they use the drugs it not only hurt his 12 brother and sister but he had 5 children at the time and one on the way so i feel your pain even now as i read your post